Communication - Nonverbal
Nonverbal communication is about what you think, feel or believe, and this can be communicated to others on a daily basis without you uttering a single word.
Every day your body, facial expressions, and tone of voice convey an unexpected amount of communication to those around you. This can reveal more about you in any given moment than that of the words you speak. It allows others to pick up on your emotions, attitude, beliefs, confidence levels, interest and so much more. It is the difference between being approached or being avoided.
When you shy away from social situations and you feel uncomfortable it translates through your nonverbal communication. Thus giving off the message of how you really feel in that given moment.
The way you hold yourself both in social situations and in conversation can indicate to others how confident and approachable you really are.
Practicing various nonverbal communication techniques can enable you to become more confident. It can help you approach new like-minded people and also help attract new people into your life. It allows you to build a support system, opens up new opportunities, and increases your level of happiness by reducing your level of anxiety.
If you think about it, you yourself might already notice a change in your body language when you are around a friend or you are talking about a topic you enjoy. You may notice that your voice is less quiet and slightly elevated. Your body is more relaxed, perhaps you use more hand movements, your voice becomes enthusiastic in tone and you smile more. Wouldn’t it be nice to be like that all the time?
To improve your nonverbal communication try following these tips:
Stand in front, of a mirror and practice each skill over and over again until it becomes more natural. You can also record yourself or get a friend to help you practice if it will help.
1. Eye Contact - Always maintain eye contact when engaging in conversation, glancing away occasionally (but not in an uninterested way). Practice this technique by looking at yourself in a mirror or engaging in conversation with your friend.
2. Inviting Body Language - Maintain an open, warm, inviting presence. Make sure to smile warmly, prevent yourself from looking down at the floor. Avoid fidgeting openly, or crossing your arms and legs. Practice this technique in front of your mirror. You can also use your phone to film yourself so you can see what areas need more attention.
3. Find Your Voice - Speak at a normal volume and speak with a calm, confident tone. Avoid speaking quietly and try not to fumble your words. Practice this technique by yourself, again in front of a mirror, camera, or with a friend.
Before you start produce two recordings of yourself.
1. Talk about a topic, you are passionate and confident about.
2. Then imagine you are in a social situation you avoid. Think about yourself going up to someone and striking a conversation.
Watch them back. You should be able to see a difference. Your first video should be naturally more confident, open and inviting. Your second should be unconfident, uncomfortable, and timid. The aim is to get you to the point where the second video is like the first.
Happy self-care Sunday everyone!